We live in the country with the highest divorce rate in the world. One out of every two marriages ends in divorce. That mean if you get married, it has only a 50% chance of being successful. It forces one to wonder...what is the point?
A good friend said to me last night "I don't believe in love. It doesn't exist. Compatibility is what brings people together."
What if that is true?
I will have to admit that he is quite the cynic. And though I am not a mushy-gushy hopeless romantic, I choose to believe that love most definitely exist.
I see it around me everyday. I have no other choice but to believe it exist. I see it when a mother looks at her newborn. I see it when best friends confide in each other. I see it when someone waits and prays to hear from their husband in Afghanistan every minute of every day. I see it when my best friend lays down with the love of her life at night until they are asleep - which happens to be her daughter. I see it when my mom and dad look at each other. I see it when an elderly couple in a restaurant smile, hold hands, and know that the company of one another is enough.
So why do marriages end? I suppose it is because we are all human. We make mistakes. We judge feelings wrong. We assume that something is love when in reality it is nothing more than lust. Sometime we just fall out of love. The spark that was once the driving force of a relationship burns out.
What is your take on it? Why do you think 50% of couples in the US just can't seem to get it right?
Most Americans do not know what love is. They love the idea of love and not the person behind it. Having lived in multiple states I can tell you first hand that in this area especially people feel like they need to be in a relationship at all times. This makes them "stuck" with a person they think they love, when in fact it is just the idea of having someone there they like - whether it is the right person or not. If you have the mentality that you need someone in your life, you will never find your "true love" because you will take the first opportunity that comes up in front of you. Love can't be forced and it can't be planned. Love is something that will sneak up when you least expect it and that is the type of relationship that lasts the longest.
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